DREAM BIG!

Hello everyone! With so much joy in my heart, I welcome you to a brand new week and I want to appreciate everyone who have been giving feedback. Thank you so much.

This week, we would examine how fulfilled you want to become in your chosen purpose or career. It centres basically on what you see yourself being in future and how to achieve it. A lot of people tend to undermine themselves when thinking about this. Probably because of fear, doubt, background, societal values, mentality, lack of money e.t.c.

HOW BIG IS YOUR DREAM? WHAT PICTURE OF THE FUTURE DO YOU HAVE IN MIND? HOW DO YOU PREPARE YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS? HOW WORTHY ARE YOU FOR SUCCESS? These and many more questions must be duly answered in attaining the height you pictured.

Ideally, everyone should have set goals on the height they want to attain and how they want to get there. However, what kind of dream do you have? are you undermining yourself? do you think your dream is too big to be achieved? I tell you, no dream is too big to be achieved if you believe.
In fact, when you dream big, you automatically connect to the plan of God for your life. It means you are in agreement with His purpose over your life. What happens if you don't dream big enough? You disappoint God.

Don't underestimate yourself, you can do much more than what you think most times..

 In achieving this, you have to cultivate the habit of  SELF PROPHESY. Whoever desires to achieve great things, must see themselves doing it without thinking of any limitation. There is power in what you say and believe. If you dream to have your own establishment with a hundred employees for instance and you are confident about it, the confidence that you have will be a driving force for achieving what you want. You will have no fear of doing the things you need to do to achieve it being confident of the end. Even when you are faced with challenges, you will not back down because of the picture you have in mind. If you don't have a vision of the kind of life you want to live, it will be difficult for success to take place. Success don't just happen, you make it happen by working for it.

However, how ready are you for success? everyone wishes to be rich and famous, but only few are willing to sacrifice and prepare themselves for it. A lot of people by every standard don't qualify to be successful simply because they are not willing to learn and seek understanding. If you are ignorant, even the little knowledge you have will be taken away from you. You must possess the right attitude to maintain success because your attitude determines if you will remain successful for a long time or not.

Few things you need to consider if you want to achieve your big picture :

* You have to set your priorities right.

* You have to yearn for knowledge.

* You have to be a great thinker.

* You have to be passionate about humanity.

* You have to be selfless and not selfish.

* You have to be humble.

* You have to be able to identify opportunities when they come.

* Finally, you have to realise that there is no perfect time to start your journey. Start where you are and with what you have. Create your own perfect time even if it doesn't look like it. Waiting for the right time equals delaying yourself unnecessarily.

In conclusion, being worthy is a great virtue for success. It is the only way you can maintain that height when you eventually get there. It prepares you for success, teaches you how to live in success and maintains success for you. 

Thank you for your usual co-operation. I wish you the very best this week and beyond.


Damilola Adebambi

SELF-PITY PUTS OFF YOUR LIGHT!

Hello everyone, you are welcome to another awesome week. This week's topic is based on how we think about success, how it is achieved and the challenges we face on our way to becoming.

SELF-PITY:  It's a psychological state of being sad for yourself. It is also an act of blaming other people for your life's problems. people often indulge in self-pity basically to gain empathy from others. In life there are choices to be made but whatever choice you make determines the outcome of your life. You can choose to worry and be sad over your life's situations and indulge in self-pity. You can also choose not to give up by quickly snapping out of feeling sorry for yourself and think about a way of turning your situation around, the choice is yours to make.

 Overtime, I have realised that when you blame other people for your problem, it closes your eyes to the bitter truth you ought to have a taste of and give you unwarrantable excuse for failure.

To live a life of fulfilment, you need to get hold of your life and take responsibility for whatever happens. Have you ever wondered why you keep failing? It is probably because you keep making the same mistake over and over again. This week, I trust God to give us understanding of what self-pity does to us and our future. Below are the effects of self-pity.

JUDGEMENTAL: You become unnecessarily judgemental of others who are successful. Some will even come up with theories that they became successful through illegal means, rituals e.t.c.

UNBELIEF: You will never come to terms with the fact that nothing is impossible. Self - pity makes you to be faithless, It renders you hopeless and gives you the impression that you can't succeed in life.

SELF DESTRUCTION: It destroys your life gradually by killing the inspiration in you and stops you from dreaming big. Instead of jumping to your feet and keep moving, it slows you down.

ANTAGONISTIC: You become antagonistic to others. You will never see anything good in anyone.

LAZINESS: You become extremely lazy. Self-pity sucks motivation out of you, you then spend most of your time brooding instead of working.

HYPOCRISY: You become a hypocrite. Even though you want success so badly, you belittle those who are successful wondering how they came about it.

PERFECTIONIST: You basically blame others for your situation. You will never see where you are getting it wrong. It makes you see yourself as a perfect person who doesn't deserve to be treated unfairly.

ILLOGICAL: You become illogical in your reasoning. You expect people to just look at you to know what is going in your life without you telling them. Sometimes, you even wonder why they are not helping you because you think they ought to know that you need help.

 However, in every man, there is a light instilled by God and He confirmed this in His words that we are the light of the world. When you indulge in self-pity, you simply put off the light slowly and it will be impossible for your light to shine bright that way. No one will see your light shine because you have allowed darkness which is self-pity to take over. 

 

When a person's life is in darkness, such person cannot see anything good about his/her own life. They will not be able to fulfil purpose and finally no one will help them because they simply can't see their light. Worrying cannot take you anywhere, the sooner you realise this, the better for you. No matter what you are currently going through, it is not a coincidence. It is part of your life's journey. You need to face it with courage so that you can come out of it a victor because there is surely light at the end of the tunnel.

 

 Let every situation that come your way be a fuel for shinning your light bright. Never give up! If only you are able to realise how powerful you are when you hold on to God's word and you are determined. That's why the devil sends doubt and fear your way just to rip you off your power. 

 

Maybe you are faced with criticism and for that reason you allowed fear and doubt to set in. I tell you, you don't need any man's approval to succeed in life. You only need God and you to succeed. And you have already gotten all the confirmation you need from God through His words. It is no more a secret that God wished us above all things that we may prosper even as our soul prosper. What other approval do you need? yours!. Therefore, Learn from your mistakes, make corrections where necessary and be encouraged to move on regardless of what today may seem like. 

 

If you find this post helpful, please don't hesitate to comment. Feedback will be highly appreciated. Thank you for your usual support, God bless you.   

 

Damilola Adebambi

 

YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS DEFINE YOU!

Hello everyone! It is so amazing how time fly. I welcome you to a brand new week. It is my believe that every new week usually come bearing truck full of favour, grace and unlimited opportunities. You only need to connect to it for them to be yours.

This week, we would examine living a good and satisfactory life in relations to your circle of friends; how they affect your life based on your thinking pattern, decision making and general view of life.

CIRCLE OF FRIENDS simply means a number of close friends who usually do things together as a group. No doubt everyone needs good friends in their lives. It all begins with your spiritual life being apt, being able to identify, work in the confines of your purpose and making money gradually through it. Having good friends with whom you hang out is the icing on the cake. it means that you have a totally balanced life. friends are important in the journey of life and lots of writers have proven this by writing books on how to make friends and all.

Remember we have been on living consciously, deliberately and intentionally for the past one month. This episode centres on choosing the right set of friends in order to stay committed to the kind of life you have chosen. However, WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS? Do they think and reason the way you do? Do they share the same value as you? are you always trying to fit in when you are with them? Do they think you are weird and different? Do they make jest of you when you bring up an idea? Do you always struggle to gain their attention? is it only when you have money you see them? Do you feel inferior when you are with them? Do you feel less of yourself after hanging out with them? Do you always try to please them? Are u usually scared of them deep inside of you? If your answers are yes then you have got no friends yet. Friendship should not be forced on anyone. It has to be a mutual thing between two or more people who care about each other genuinely.

Good friends love each other genuinely and are committed to each other’s growth and expansion even when they fight. They are critical about each other and they correct each other when necessary. Good friends are supportive of each other’s vision, they admit when they are wrong and forgive each other quickly. When other people can't key into your vision, they are the first to invest in you. Good friends succeed together because success is not one sided to them, they share positive ideas and relate well with each other, they have the same view about life and are not ashamed of each other.

Good friends embrace you with all your flaws. They cheer you up when you are at your worse moments. They are sworn to secrecy about your life issues, they defend you even in your absence. They are friends with you not because of what they gain from you as it were but what they love about you. When you finally succeed, they are not jealous of your success but rather celebrate you. They are not the kind that secretly put you down or put off every little effort you make at making the right choices in life. These types of friends are rare to find but I tell you, they exist. If you have friends like that, Please hold on to them and never let them go.

Did you know that your friends to some extent influence how you think and reason about success and life.

Generally when issues arise, friends are usually the first people you tell, not even your parent. That shows you have some level of confidence in them and that is why you have to be sure of the kind of friends you have. If they are loyal to someone else and not you, you will always have problems with them. If your friends don't understand how you feel, then they don't know you. It is believed that our friends reactions towards us sometimes affect the way we feel. If you hang out with mediocre, then there will be a sprinkle, wrinkle of mediocrity in you if you are not totally one.

Therefore look around you and analyse those you hang out with. You might need to do away with some people after the analysis. Make sure you surround yourself with friends that you trust and are dependable, that do not draw you back from living your purpose; Friends that fuel your inspiration and motivate you to achieve more, that appreciate your friendship with them, That you can conquer the world with.

In conclusion, If you want to attract good and loyal friends, you must be good and loyal too. Be someone who people can trust with their dreams and lives. It is as simple as that.

Thank you for taking your time to read through. Remember to live every moment of your life in full consciousness of your actions by simply being deliberate and intentional. God bless you, and have a fruitful week!





Damilola Adebambi

LET YOUR IMPACT BE FELT!

Hello people, trust you had a wonderful week? It's another week of great impact and exploration. i believe with persistence and perseverance your light will shine to the world.

Having discussed how to break free from negative addictions, what follows is THE IMPACTS OF PARENTING AND MENTORING.
 The essence of this is that when you are fulfilled and satisfied with your life, you should be able to affect those who look up to you positively and mentor them to also achieve that in life. The question is HOW DO YOU CONVINCE OTHERS TO WALK IN THE PATH YOU HAVE CHOSEN?  According to wikipedia, Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. It also refers to the aspects of raising a child aside from the biological relationship.

As a parent you have to imbibe what you want your children to become. Because most children emulate what they see their parent do. That is why it is important as a parent or guardian to strive towards living a life of content and satisfaction so that the children can also follow in that path. In the light of this, it is safe to conclude that parents are a child's first mentor and role model.

Eighty percent of a child's traits can be traced to the parents, and if you as a parent or guardian have been able to understand your weakness and make efforts to become a better person, It will be easy for you to sight this in your child and correct them accordingly. As a parent you are saddled with the resposnsiblity of not allowing your child to make the same mistakes you made. Therefore you need to help them navigate through the cause of life succesfully just as you have.

PARENTING GOALS:

*Ensure that you have quality time for them.

* Treat them the way you want them to treat others by respecting them and seeing the world through their own point of view.

*Give them quality education and support their dream

*Appreciate their uniqueness and correct them when they are wrong through punishment

* Understand that your children can never be perfect therefore accept them with their differences.

* Love them with the love of God, love them beyond their flaws.

* Train them to be independent.

*Don't compare them with other people's children.

In conclusion, be in constant reminder of the fact that you are just the caretaker of your children and not their owner. And that you are only priviledged to raise them through what they learn from you.

Your eternity requires more than your holiness, it requires also the result of your end products. That is your children. If you fail at raising them well, you automatically fail at life.

MENTORING on the other hand is a relationship in which a more experienced and knowledgeable person helps to guide a less experienced or less knowledgeable person. The mentor may be older or younger than the person being mentored, but he or she must have a certain area of expertise.


There is a popular saying that experience is the best teacher. what you know through your various experiences in life should be a light unto the younger generation. Don't conclude that they have to also go through the same thing before they can understand. Assume that you experienced all you did so that they can learn through you and be better than you were.

 The encounter that you had that changed you to a better person might change their life negatively if they experienced it.  People are unique in their various ways of reacting to issues and happenings. for instance, a lady who got raped by six men might come out of the trauma to say ''yes i have been raped and for this reason i want to start up a campaign against rape in order to curb it''. while some other lady can have the same experience and end up hating men in general and conclude that she has to kill every man she comes across to avoid being raped again.

In this light mentorship goes a great deal in making the world a better place. Helping others to be better through your own experiences automatically makes you step up your game because you simply would not want to fail or disappoint them. Therefore in mentoring other people, you have to do the following..

 *Make your mentees trust you by being a person of integrity.

 *Make them have confidence in you by cheering them up when they are down

 *Support their dream and encourage them

 *Guide and educate them by relating your experience to them.

 *Be interested in their future

If you want a life of total satisfaction and fulfilment, you must let it transcend to people around you. Especially your children so that the trend can continue after your generation to the next.

Thank you for your usual support!  I wish you a wonderful week ahead.

Damilola Adebambi