INVEST IN YOUR DREAM!

Hello people! It's another awesome week on the blog today and as always I am glad to connect to you.  As intentional people, we have goals and dreams. But what turns the dreams and goals to reality is the level of commitment and sacrifice we are willing to make. Abraham Lincoln says that commitment is what transforms a promise into reality.  In living a life of fulfillment, you have to work daily in consciousness of your mission and purpose in life.  Dreams don't just become reality, they require efforts like passion and commitment to make them work.

Some of the many works you have to put in place are highlighted below :

* Ensure that you upgrade and position yourself to a place where you can fulfil your dream. This means that you have to first of all, ensure that your mindset is shaped and formed towards believing that your dream can become reality.

* Locate people who are capable of influencing your dream. In other words, get mentored by those who have gone ahead of you. It doesn't have to be a close one. You can get mentored from afar by reading books, following the right people on social media, reading their articles and journals. e.t.c. They avail you the necessary information and ideas you need to run with, in bringing your own dream to fulfillment

* Focus on everything that helps you connect to your dream by getting involved in activities that gets you closer to its realization on a daily basis.

* Take risk and be courageous. Yes, it is normal to be scared, but just go for it! risk takers move the world forward.

* No dream can become reality without real work. Therefore you need to advance yourself in learning. You can attend seminar / workshops, attempt online courses that are related to your purpose.

When you invest in your dreams, it gives you the thorough sharpness you need for greatness. It also broadens your ideas and shapes your thoughts. Please note that no amount of effort you put will be a waste.

Whatever you give your dream comes back to you in future. Trust me, you don't want to be mediocre about your dream . This is part of what determines its sustainability.

I encourage you to make a move today as every step you make a step away from your regret tomorrow. Thank you for reading through, enjoy the rest of your week.








Damilola Olamide Adebambi

HUMILITY IS THE BEGINNING OF GROWTH!

Hello people! As we round up the week, I encourage you to make a decision for yourself today. If you want to keep growing, you have to be humble and stay so for the rest of your life. It definitely would be one of the best decisions you ever make. Humility apart from getting you all you want without so much stress, enhances growth at all levels. It commands respect and attracts unwarranted favor. Obviously pride is a typical thing among Africans in the face of achievement. We tend to dwell so much on whatever we feel we get right in terms of money, fame, achievements, successful marriage e.t.c. We usually don't see any of our breakthrough as a privilege and a platform for growing bigger. This is one of the reasons why we are still underdeveloped.

In living a life of continual growth and fulfillment, you have to choose to be different. I have realized that everybody appreciates an humble person but only few find it less difficult to indulge in humility.
To remain humble, you have to first ensure that you attribute every of your achievement to God. Do not ever feel that your hard work alone got you to the stage you are. Rather, believe in your heart that even though you put in your efforts, it was God who crowned it. This means that if you look round the world, you will see that so many others who work harder than you are still find themselves struggling. Therefore when life treats you fairer than the rest, stay humble and be kind.

Permit me to say this. If you are rich but unwise, in no time you will end up being poor. In the same vein, if you are rich but proud, in no time you will realize that money is not enough and that is why some rich people source for power because of nothing order than respect. Meanwhile you only need to be humble for people to respect you to a fault. A rich and humble person is powerful through the love and respect of the people. I urge you to please choose humility over pride no matter your heights in life.  It will enable you feel the need for conquering more territories. But a man who is proud typically dwells on existing achievement and sees himself beyond growth. Thank you for always reading through. Enjoy your weekend!




Damilola Olamide Adebambi

PATIENCE IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS!

Hello People, Happy independence!  It is my pleasure to write this week on PATIENCE, the greatest virtue of all. Patience is the ability to wait for something you crave for. It is also the ability to stay calm during difficult times. Success and patience are interwoven therefore in achieving success, lots of patience has to take place. I realized that you can only get the chicken by hatching the egg not by smashing it. Everyone needs to possess this virtue to make wise decisions in life. If you are not a patient person, making right decisions will be quiet hard for you. Because patience and wisdom go hand in hand. There is usually no short cut to success and if it must last, you must yearn, work hard and wait for it.

Everyone seem to be in a hurry these days. They want to hit it fast, make it fast and take it faster than anyone. You see, there is nothing that doesn't take process in life. Absolutely nothing! Even though it is not easy to wait, it is always worth it. Maybe you have been toiling so hard and you expect immediate result, or you have been promised something by someone and it is not coming forth or probably you already have the picture of what your future should look like, but right now you are not even anywhere near it, please be patient. Have you been battling an addiction you want to be so free from?  but seems so difficult? be patient with yourself. After all, the addiction didn't happen in one day so have a little patience. The most important thing is the fact that you know that it is wrong and you need to change. While you wait, get busy with other things. Focus on other parts of your life that need attention.

Patience is about understanding the right moment for action and stillness. It achieves more results than force. So stop forcing things and let them go through their normal course. If you can master how to be patient then you can be a master at everything and nothing will be difficult for you to achieve. True patience however requires positive attitude. Therefore be patient with yourself, people around you and your creator. This way, you become more wise each day....
Thank you for reading through. Have a lovely week ahead!


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

YOUR INNER PEACE IS IMPORTANT!

Hello dear people! On the blog this week, I encourage you to please focus more on your inner peace. That is, the state of your mind and soul. Your mind is where lots of ideas are birth, it is also where evil acts are planned. If people's hearts are ordered open what would yours look like? Some hearts are full of locked up emotions, bottled up anger, hate and malice. If you are guilty of the above mentioned, you haven't been so fair on your soul.

 It is no more news that our actions are the outcome of what goes on in our mind. The mind controls how we behave and react to things. Many people fail to realize that sometimes it is okay to speak out than to die in silence. And the essence of it is so that your mind can be free. A free mind produces positive things from the heart. Same reason why you need to cry when you have to. We make mistakes by thinking not speaking out is self control. Self control is totally different. It is the ability to control what you let in and out of your mind.

Once you free your mind and learn how to keep it that way, you will be in your truest form. Many people live fake lives these days in the name of self control while their heart is filled with hurts, hatred and malice for others. Please note that everyone cannot be your friend and you cannot be liked by everyone. Appreciate the few people who do and live a happy life. The problem is you want to try keep everyone around, yet you don't have the emotional capability to do so. Why stress yourself? You need to first be at peace with yourself before you can be at peace with everyone.

These days people curse inwardly and smile sweetly on the outside. When they are offended, rather than speak up and let the offenders know, they bottle it up in the name of self control. The truth is there is a limit to what everyone can take in and once the limit is exceeded, you definitely cannot control what comes next.  That is why you shouldn't fill your heart to the brim with negativity concerning anyone or yourself. A happy life radiates beauty and positivism from the inside . We see many lovely faces but what we don't get to see often is their ugly minds. Meanwhile, our creator is more concerned about our soul than body. Having inner peace is paramount to living a life of fulfillment.

STEPS TO HAVING INNER PEACE:

1. Forgive and reconcile quickly. Let those who offend you know, it doesn't matter if they don't feel the same way with you. Always remember that your inner peace is more important.

2. You can't spread love if you don't have a clear and peaceful mind, it is not possible. You need to be able to feel the love from the inside so that it can genuinely manifest outside .

3. Stay positive always, never give room for negativism. When you are offended never ever think of revenge. It fuels your anger more, especially when you are not able to carry out the action.

4. Cry when you need to. Enough of inner cry, it is deadly to your soul. Cry out the pains of the hurts you feel, let the tears flow freely so your heart can be light and free.

5. Do not expect so much from people. Only you have the key to your inner peace.

6. Learn to ignore people's excesses. No one is without one.




Damilola Olamide Adebambi

JUDGING OTHERS DOES NOT DEFINE WHO THEY ARE, IT DEFINES WHO YOU ARE!

Hello to my favorite people in the world! Happy new week. Last week was quiet busy for me but thanks to God I'm very much free this week. On the blog today, I want to encourage you to do the right thing always regardless of what others think or feel for the sake of your cause. Anytime you do something wrong or make a mistake after a commitment, don't beat yourself up for it.  Just realize that you were wrong, make amends and move on like nothing happened. Yes, in people's eyes it may seem so grave that they might find it hard to forget or stop talking about. But you don't have to bother about that because it would have then become a matter between them and God.

In this regard, you must be careful how you judge and criticize others. Sometimes people tell us about other people in certain light, either in a good or bad way. Even when we are not witnesses of the matter, we tend to judge and criticize them based on what we are told. Now, two things we usually don't know is that the labelled people might have repented and make amends with God but you will be there judging who God has acquitted. 2, The person who told you about them might also have forgiven and moved on, but you will be caught in the middle of it.

When you react or treat people based on what you hear about them from others, you end up committing greater sin than the guilty one. Be careful how you meddle into the affairs that you did not witness.  I have realized that everyone wants to be the great correcter forgetting that none is perfect. To correct is good but the best way to do that, is to correct in love. The reason is, hardly will someone who is corrected in love rebel against it.

One of the greatest errors committed by humanity is the fact that we are quick to hear about others, judge them and react without proper investigation or evidence . No one is mad really, I believe that for every act there is always a cause. Humans should learn how to find out the real story about why people are the way they are and not just jump into conclusion. Some people because of envy spread false rumor about their friends and due to our nature as humans we join them in talking about it without knowing for a fact if it is so. Humanity must be saved. Be the change you want to see.

I have decided to be a voice of hope to humanity and you are also invited to join me in the journey to genuine love, peace and harmony in the world. Say no to gossip, be kind to others no matter what, treat people the way you like to be treated, live, love and let live. For the world to be a great, safe place, it begins with you and me. Thank you for reading through, have a blessed week.


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

PRACTISE WHAT YOU SAY OR CHANGE YOUR SPEECH!

Hello! How is the week going? On the blog this week, I would like to discuss HYPOCRISY. It is one of the social vices that not many pay attention to. Meanwhile a lot of people are guilty of it.

 HYPOCRISY means the act of claiming to have higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case. It also means the pretense of being what you are not or having a false appearance while concealing the real you. Hypocrites do the direct opposite of what they teach or expect from others. As an intentional individual, you must ensure that you are not caught up in this act because it is the most betraying thing ever. Your actions must not be different from your words if you intend to affect others positively. It is really heart breaking to think that today, people who are suppose to be role models are the ones that indulge in this act the most.

There will be good people around you, but there will also be hypocrites so be mindful of them. How do you know them?  hypocrites are always critical of every move you make towards achieving your goals. They tell you one thing and you find them doing another so don't fall for whatever excuse they give. They pretend to have certain beliefs, attitudes or feelings and intentionally go against yours. They are all out to frustrate every effort you make at succeeding. when you finally do, they pretend to be happy for you while they are not.

Hypocrisy has killed many dreams, businesses and marriages. You need to be able to identify them for your safety and good. They criticize you for what they will die for and condemn your decisions. Many married women and youths have fallen victim of them. They tell you how to train your child but theirs are worse. They tell you how to run your home but won't make effort on theirs. They pretend to listen to you but mock you secretly. When you fail, they rejoice and judge. The only way to overcome them is to ignore and have a mind of your own. If you rely on friend's decision before you can make a move, then you are already a victim. Friendship is only nice if everyone can be true to themselves.

Truth is, no one has the right to judge others based on their own values and beliefs. Hypocrisy starter pack comes with lying, breaking of promises and betraying of trust. It is very important that people see you the way you talk about yourself if you want to maintain your good standard. A good advertisement can only sell a bad product once. This means that once your true identity is revealed to people who trust you, they stop trusting you immediately no matter what you do. Therefore it is best to be known as an honest sinner, than a lying hypocrites.


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

LIVE FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS!

Hello there! It's been a while. How has life been treating you? fairly I hope. I had a week break and to me it feels like forever because I totally missed reaching out to you. So much has happened to me during the last week, I lost someone so dear to me at the age of 69 and I feel terrible about it. I wish he had lived longer, but really, when the time is up, no one can add to it.

 Life is a journey and everyone will definitely alight when they get to their destinations. Today, I would like you to reflect on few things about life, especially on this question. DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING YOU HOLD SO DEAR,  THAT YOU CAN'T LET GO? Here is the thing, No matter how much money you have, you can't take them with you when your time is up. No matter how close you are with your spouse, they can't be buried with you when you are gone. No matter how sweet your kids are, they can't be allowed too much near your coffin when you are gone. Now why won't you want to let go of things even after knowing that life and everything in it is vanity? You love your kids so much you can't let them out of your sight, you really worked hard for your money so you can't dash it out. You did so much to acquire the knowledge that you have so you can't teach others. Really?

Did you know that man can live forever? through the way he made people feel when he was alive,  the knowledge he passed across, the deeds that he did, the lives he blessed and cared for, the legacy he left behind, the name he wrote in the sand of time, what he stood for and against, the memories of the moments he spent with loved ones e.t.c. Now if a man wasn't so wise enough to live well. Probably he was stingy, egoistic, wicked, not reasonable, selfish, care less for people, use people but care for things, too rigid, too principled, too difficult to deal with, addictive, too stubborn, abusive e.t.c, People would hardly remember him. And on one or too occasions that they do, it will be but for a while. During this period they will talk about his wicked ways and end it with thanks that he left. His works will be totally forgotten because no one likes to save bad memories in their brain.

Maybe you think someone has to ask for your help before you can help them, or you think someone has to say sorry first before you can forgive them. You probably think that since you worked so hard for your money you can't do charity with it, or you think your hard work put you where you are so those who don't have are probably not hardworking enough therefore they are not worth your mercy. Or you think people won't succeed or decide until you help them and because of that you delay helping them intentionally just for the fun.

Really what's the point of having money if you can't give it out? what's the point of being influential if you can't create opportunities for people? what's the point of having a sonorous voice if you can't sing to people with it? what's the point of having children if you can't train them the way they should go? what's the point of marrying if you can't love and care for your spouse? Know that whatever you do today will surely come back at you, good or bad even in death and each time you act irrationally in life concerning anything whatsoever, you pollute the world! Anytime you refuse to do the needful in life, you deny the world of the peace it should enjoy.

Everything good that a man is and will have is for the sake of humanity not only for himself. No one should think only for himself in all areas but rather think also of others and how they are affected in your actions. This way you can be rational in your dealings with people and intentional in shaping your attitude to life. Thank you always for your time...



Damilola Adebambi

NEVER LOSE YOUR IDENTITY!

Hello people! you are welcome to another great week. I wonder if you noticed that this year is super fast? I feel the year is running quickly to an end. So how many people believe that things can still turn around for the best within the next four months? I DO! I have learnt many times that when God decides to let your struggles pay off it takes just seconds.

Last year, The internet broke out with the news of a lady named Olajumoke Orisagunna who came from Osun State in Nigeria to Lagos to hustle. She came with one of her two children while she left the other with her husband in Ire, Osun State and hawked bread on the street of Lagos for months. But one morning, she hawked her bread as usual and her life changed forever. While hawking she stumbled on a group of people taking photograph of a British rapper, Tinie Tempah and got photographed accidentally with a tray of bread well balanced on her head and went her way.

 Back at her office, the photographer, TY Bello, went through the pictures taken and discovered that the ones that had the lady in the background looked perfect like she had been modelling for years. Thus she began looking for the lady and today she is one of the top models in Nigeria, with her own reality show. Olajumoke Orisagunna didn't go to school, she was a trained hair dresser back at Ire in Osun State and communicates most times in Yoruba language. CNN reported her story too and in such a short time, she has traveled the world.

Two things struck me in her story. 1. she left her comfort zone to seek for greener pasture in Lagos. How many of us are not willing to leave what we consider as comfort zone ? How many are willing to go extra mile in fulfilling purpose? I hear people complain and whine about their current situations without really doing anything to change it. Until you are tired of your current status, you cannot move to the next stage of your life. No amount of complaints without moves can change anyone's situation.

2. She was obviously confident of herself even while hawking bread. To me, it means that she was unapologetic of her status neither was she ashamed. She knew her situation was temporary and probably already had dreams of being a model. If not, aside from her beautiful face, nothing would have struck the creative team in her pictures. Instead, they would have seen a regular bread seller on the street of Lagos who wallowed in self-pity and just happened to have a fine face that she wasn't even aware of.

But in her own case, her confidence plus her fine face gave the picture a meaning and that led to her breakthrough. Don't feel sorry for every positive move you make towards making your life better. Be confident that your current status is temporary and very soon, you will reach your destination. Never lose your identity while doing what you have to do to get to the place of purpose.

You just might be like the bread hawker today, selling things in traffic so you could pay your tuition fee in school or you could even be a cleaner at a bank right now just to make ends meet. That doesn't mean that you will forever be who you are right now. Have it in mind that you are a person of  purpose and what you do right now is a vehicle that will convey you to your very destination.

 I knew a guy who had to be a bus conductor because he had to see himself through University. But those who boarded his bus then always knew he wasn't the typical bus conductor they see around. It was obvious that he was a man on a mission. And today he is a graduate and doing fine. Don't lose your identity in the face of adversity and don't give up. Always know who you are, stay focused and one day just like the bread hawker, you will break even.

Thanks for always reading!

Damilola Olamide Adebambi

COUNT IT ALL JOY!

Hello people! Welcome to the beautiful month of August. It definitely is the month of birthing new things. This week, I would like to admonish those who are travailing and in chaotic period of their lives. There is just one thing to note, in the midst of troubles, there is usually new blessing to tap into. 

Sometimes, you never know how strong you are until you are faced with challenges. When people go through challenging periods, it usually look like there is no way out and that it will never end but if you can search deeply, answers on why those things have to be will surface. You will realize that it's just life training you for a greater purpose. 

If you don't have a taste of bitterness, you cannot 
appreciate the taste of sweetness. 

What you are experiencing now is to prepare you, purge you and purify you for the blessings that are to come. For instance, it may be that there are few people you have to do away with before you can evolve. It could also be that there are some characters you have to let go of in order to function well in your purpose. 

 Appreciate every season of your life. Don't envy others when it seem that they are getting it right because they also have gone through their own chaotic periods. The season you appreciate or envy them for is their time of evolving because no man can escape theirs.

If it will help, I didn't evolve until i had to go through my own share of turbulence. I struggled with betrayal from friends, difficult in-laws, financial issues, unemployment and an unplanned pregnancy (My first child was barely 8 months old when i became pregnant again) all in the space of one year. It was as if that year would never end, but guess what? it did!. And today I count it all joy, in fact I am happy I went through it all because it made me appreciate the blessings that followed. If  I didn't experience all that I did, I would never have seen the need for self evaluation and personal growth which led me to discovering my purpose.

Therefore, in the midst of a great storm, there is something God wants to bring out of it. There is a reason for it. So count it all joy, instead of giving up, look beyond the chaos and birth new things.  Don't lament, but rather get to work, solve the puzzle, reflect, think on the things you can do right and you will be surprised how much you can achieve even in the storm. Thank you for reading, enjoy your week.



Damilola Olamide Adebambi

CELEBRATE YOUR SHINE!

Hello everyone, happy new week! This week, we will take a sneak peek at that moment , when after all your struggles and hustles you finally make it.  How would you feel ? imagine yourself  achieving more than what you thought was impossible, how happy and fulfilled would you be at that glorious moment? It would no doubt seem to you like a miracle from God and that's why you have to celebrate the moment of your shine. It makes it more special and real to you. It also depicts the rarity of the moment.

At every point of our lives when we reach a milestone, it is important that we celebrate and enjoy every moment. It is not out of place to treat yourself well. In fact failure to celebrate means you are not grateful to God for the achievement. It also means that success doesn't mean anything to you.Meanwhile there are people who despite their hustles didn't make it to the end.

Success might be that you passed an exam in flying colours after sleepless nights, it could also be that you got promoted at work after years of meritorious service or you finally got a hang on that project you have been working on. Basically, every reward for the hard work you put on a particular project or vision is called success.

God wants us to live a happy and fulfilled life, He also wants us to cherish the happy moments. When you celebrate success, it means...
1. That you are grateful for the achievement and the struggles it took.
2. That you are grateful to have become and won't take it for granted.
3. That you are ready for new achievements because celebrated success gives you the courage to      achieve more. It also...
4   Motivates others to crave for success and justifies that success is earned.
5. It makes the stress all worth it after all.

 So, make time to celebrate your accomplishments. Life should not only be lived but should also be celebrated.  Celebrate every tiny success because those who celebrate small victories and simple pleasures win over and over again. The more you praise and celebrate success the more there is to celebrate. Thank you for reading and have a lovely week..


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, YOU CAN DO IT!

Hello wonderful people! it's another beautiful week for positive vibes and exploration. There is nothing to be compared to the gift of life. It's the greatest of all gifts. It is another opportunity to live right, make right choices, change from bad to good and worship our creator. This week is for reflection on past posts on this blog. Have you been following the posts and you feel some of them are practically impossible? did you even try some and discovered that they were overwhelming? did you think it is easier said than done? trust me they are as easy as ABC if you can follow the rules. But first, you have to change your mindset from negativity to positivism. You have to firmly believe in your heart that you can do it.

Don't forget that you are who you say you are if you don't believe who God says you are.

Never ever think that it is impossible for you to be a better you, a successful you, a wiser you, and a you that is full of great influence. It is just a thing of the mind. Some of the things that hold humanity down from maximizing their full potentials are more mental than physical. A constant practice of how you intend to become who you want to become does the magic. You see, change is a beautiful thing but it also takes a certain process. Change doesn't happen just like that, it takes a conscious effort to achieve it. And you don't have to force or rush it. When you err or make few mistakes after your commitment, don't be disappointed or frustrated. Simply look for a way you can avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.

This is also applicable to the efforts you make towards being successful. You keep trying, failing, getting it right and with time it becomes a habit for you to succeed. You realize you don't need to force success anymore, you just see yourself succeeding at everything. What happens is, your years of practice will make it easier for you to succeed at anything you venture into. Success has one big rule, don't give up!

Therefore if you are trying to change from certain addiction like masturbation, drinking, smoking, telling lies, sex, anger, self-pity, worry, insecurity, jealousy and it seem impossible, please don't give up. If you need to get a therapist, don't hesitate to find one.

keep trying to be consciously good till you become unconsciously good at it. 

Don't be frustrated if things are not going as planned. Trust yourself and believe that whatever happens, you can succeed through it.  like I always say the only person that can stop you from being all that you want to be is you. So if you ask me, yes you can do it, you can re-write your life's story in a more interesting way that will have great impact on humanity.. Just believe in you and your process.

Thanks and have a beautiful week.

Damilola Olamide Adebambi

NEVER STOP LEARNING!

Hello friends! how was your weekend? mine was fantastic. We held a program for women on Saturday, 8th July. The focus was on how to maximize the potentials in women and it was filled with so much impacts. Part of the lessons learnt was never to stop learning.

Learning is a vital part of life and if anyone wants to live a happy and successful life, they must make learning a routine. How do you learn? by attending seminars, doing follow up courses on your passion, being a part of an association with positive impacts, reading inspirational books, getting someone to coach or mentor you e.t.c.  Often times, I have heard people make mince meat of coaching, mentoring, attending seminars or even reading books because they are of the opinion that those who will be communicating to them are humans like them who have issues of their own.

This is a wrong notion because everyone is here on earth to fulfill one purpose or another and just like a medical doctor is purposed to give health care service to sick people. So are coaches, counselors and trainers. Their purpose is for you to get a healthy life through a sound mind.

A lot of people value their bodies more than their souls.  As much as it is good to take care of your body, it is better to take care of your mind and soul because of the power they have over your being or existence. for instance, the mind of a man who hasn't taken good care of it could make him see suicide as the best option to his problems. Therefore do not underestimate the power and influence that counselors and coaches carry to heal minds from negativism because it is of God just like lawyers and the rest of the professionals.

Learning keeps you abreast of your life and gives you the necessary update that you need to excel. No one knows it all and at some point you need to get inspired and motivated through learning. learning also brings hope to you, it keeps you refreshed and rejuvenated. I encourage you to attend as much training as possible that are related to your passion. That's what gives you an edge over your contemporaries.

For everyone thinking and wondering how they can discover their purpose, it is quite simple. Whatever you are passionate about leads you straight to your purpose so never take your  passion for granted. work on it, get trained on it, practice it with due diligence and you find yourself right where you are meant to be. Thank you always for your time. Have a great week!


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

LET GO OF YOUR PAST!

Hello friends! how is the week going? There is a saying that wisdom is the rightful application of knowledge. I hope that you are able to practice what you read on this blog. Trust me, if you do, you will realize that the things seen as big issues in life are actually minor if certain principles are followed. Therefore i implore you to not only read these posts but to also resonate with them.

This week, the focus is on you. How well do you love yourself? how well do you appreciate yourself? how thankful are you for who you are? How well do you treat yourself? you see, forgiving others comes from forgiving yourself just the way you can't love others if you don't love yourself. Because you simply cannot give what you don't have. So what does your past look like? Why do you find it hard to forgive yourself of your past mistakes or errors. To live a happy and fulfilled life, you have to love and appreciate yourself regardless of what you have done in the past.

Often times, I have realized that many people's past are usually the very hindrance they need to overcome if they want to break through the roof. The errors and mistakes of the past, the hurts and disappointment are the demons they need to fight in order to have a head way. Meanwhile the past will always remain in the past and there is absolutely nothing you can do to erase it. You cannot turn back the hand of time but you can control what happens in your present and future.

 Holding on to the past puts you in a spot like a caged bird and puts the past in replay like the movies and subject you to watch. It makes you think on how miserable you were in the past, how you could have done it right, how reckless you were e.t.c. While thinking of all these, it then doesn't allow you to take care of the present as much as you should. It doesn't allow you to apply lessons learnt from it to your present life so you don't make the same mistake. You are just focused on going back to correct the past which is absolutely not possible! 

One thing I am sure of is that you cannot run away from your root. But you can overcome the influence it has on you with the power of success. So you see, success has nothing to do with your background but has everything to do with you. Therefore loving yourself is very important to you and your self esteem because no one will appreciate you if you don't appreciate yourself. 

In living a happy and fulfilling life, you need to let go and trust your growth and the process that it takes. Just like every other thing, life is in process, if you don't make mistakes you cannot get certain things right, so mistakes are bound to happen. They are for life's lessons and most importantly for the sake of process. I encourage you today not to be too hard on yourself. Love yourself , accept who you are especially where you are from, set goals, smash them and see yourself soar high like an eagle.

 Thank you for reading through, enjoy the rest of the week.

Damilola Olamide Adebambi

FORGIVENESS IS POWER

Hello friends, Happy holiday! It is such a long weekend and I am super happy that most people if not all, will have enough time to rest and have fun with family and friends. Last week, our topic was on loving ourselves and others inclusive. But this week, I would like to emphasize more on it through forgiveness.

FORGIVENESS: Is the act of pardon, a process of forgiving or being forgiven. It means to stop feeling angry at someone who has angered you.

Life Success and fulfillment is also a product of forgiveness. If you are not able to easily forgive, then you are not prepared for it. There is no way an unforgiving person can be truly happy and fulfilled even if they are successful.

 Not being able to forgive those who have wronged you will not allow you to free up your mental and emotional energy for positive vibes. Yes you have goals to achieve, but if you don't forgive easily, you might not be able to give your all to achieve them because it limits you in maximizing your potentials in full.

Your plans will be affected anytime you remember what they did to you. It discourages you and gives room for self-pity. It definitely slows you down from smashing necessary goals. But if you forgive, it gives you the strength to move on even when you remember what they did to you, it will in no way affect your plans.

 Forgiveness gives you a more clear positive thinking pattern. Naturally, as humans when we don't have issues with others, we tend to be more happy and friendly with absolutely positive attitudes. Therefore, when you forgive, you are not afraid of failing because you don't own it to anyone but yourself. It means you are not trying to impress anyone with your success or have a revenge with your success.

Unforgiving sabotages your health and also traps part of your life energy in anger and resentment towards the person you find it hard to forgive. It is solely about your growth and maturity, detoxification of your emotions and mental stability.

Therefore, I encourage you to forgive easily and in advance even if those who hurt you never ask for it because it will help you heal faster from pain, disappointments and even failure. Thank you for reading and have an amazing week.


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

BE SELFLESS ENOUGH TO LOVE OTHERS JUST AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF!

Hello friends, Happy new week! hope your weekend was as fantastic as mine? It is a good thing to be mindful of others just as you are mindful of yourself. As humans we are saddled with each other's responsibility. We are created to look out for each other, love one another,  grow together, support one another, correct in love and cheer one another.

 However it is so saddening that in today's world, we don't look out for each other any more. We just want to care for ourselves alone, not giving a hoot about how our friends and families fair. We want to be the only rich, famous and influential. We prefer that others should beg at our feet for whatever they want. We want to be the only one succeeding, traveling the world, the only one to be celebrated and all. We just want to show off to our friends and families that we alone know how to do it best and live the best of life. The moment we discover that others are also striving to be like us or more than us, we instantly feel threatened. We start hating them for wanting to grow.

Why is it that the best of friends suddenly become sworn enemies when one of them decides to aim higher. Why do we find it difficult to be simply happy for people who are aiming higher and probably than us? Why can't we support and wish them well? This is all because we love ourselves too much, we don't even want them to be as fulfilled as we are in life. But it is really not possible because everyone has the right to excel and be happy. That's the way God wants it.

SELFISHNESS: Simply means lack of consideration for other people, the act of concentrating on oneself regardless of others. It is synonymous to self love, self absorption, self obsession, self interest.

One of the greatest curse of humanity is selfishness. It is the culprit behind jealousy and betrayal. If you want to live a happy and fulfilled life, you must choose to be selfless. Because being fulfilled is not only about your happiness, it is also about the happiness of others. And if you can't love others, you can never really love yourself.

If you ask me, the sky is so wide and enough for every bird to fly. We really shouldn't be worried that others are growing. The more, the merrier. If everyone moves beyond where they are, the world would be a better place. We will have more solution providers, more people of great influence, a better government rule and of course a more developed country.

Therefore, if you are guilty of selfishness, start by wishing others what you wish for yourself. This means if you wish them well, you will also be well and if you wish that terrible things happen to them, then you will be a partaker of it. This way, you will be conscious and in control of your mind.

We get true happiness from how happy we make others through selflessness. Thanks for reading through, have a blessed week!


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

FAILURE IS NEVER AN EXCUSE!

This week is indeed a great one! why? because the topic for the week is the realest of all. It sounds scary and gives many people the chills. But i am happy to tell you that it is absolutely nothing to worry yourself about.

FAILURE  means the inability to achieve success after trying out an act. It also means non-fulfillment and an unexpected result.

The fact that you failed does not mean you should stop trying. Failure is a huge part of success and i can assure you that everyone you hear of today who has made it has had their own share of it. Below are few examples of people who were just like you years back and made it through persistence and failure to give up today

Oprah Winfrey : She is famous, known to be one of the richest and most successful women in the world. But she also faced a hard road to get to that position. She endured a rough and abusive childhood, numerous career setbacks. she was fired from her job as a television reporter because according to her bosses she was unfit for T.V. But today she is one of the most iconic faces on the T.V..

Soichiro Honda:  The billion-dollar business also began with series of failures. He didn't become successful overnight. Honda was turned down by Toyota Motor Corporation for a job after interviewing for a job as an engineer, leaving him jobless for quite some time. He started making scooters of his own at home. Today he is a force to reckon with. 

Walt Disney:  Also had his own rough start when he began. He was fired by a newspaper editor because he lacked imagination and had no good ideas. After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn't last too long and ended with bankruptcy but he kept trying and eventually found a recipe for success that worked.

Albert Einstein: He didn't speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven. His teachers and parents thought he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. He was expelled from school and was refused admission into Zurich Polytechnic School.Even though it took him forever, he caught on well in the end and won Nobel Prize. Not only that, he changed the face of modern Physics. 

Winston Churchill: He is today known as a Nobel Prize winner, twice-elected Prime Minister of United Kingdom, wasn't as regarded in the past. He struggled in school and failed the sixth grade. After school, he faced many years of political failures. He was defeated in every election for public office until he finally became the Prime Minister at age 62.

Bill Gates: His story is a popular one, he dropped out of Harvard and started a business with Microsoft co-founder Traf-O-Data but they failed. They tried another idea, well today the rest is history. 

Michael Jordan: He was cut from his high school basketball team. He didn't let that stop him to stop playing basketball. He failed over and over again but he succeeded in being the best basketball player of all time. In his words, ''I have failed over and over and that's why i succeed''.

What exactly is your failure story? one thing that I found similar in the stories above was that none of them allowed their failures to define them and in the end they over came. Now they wouldn't be known today if they gave up, would they? 

I implore you not to allow your failures to define who you will be in years to come.

Thank you for being inspired, God bless you.

Damilola Olamide Adebambi

NEVER STOP HOPING!

Hello great people! how was your weekend? It's a new week and as usual, I am so grateful for another opportunity to reach out to you. This week is definitely going to be great for everyone.

With every new day, we hope and yearn for that period or hour of our big breaks. But no one actually knows when it will happen. That is the reason why you can't sit back and expect things to happen. You have to keep working and hoping that one day, your time will come.

This brings me to the topic of the week, HOPE: It is the belief or expectation that something you wish for can or will happen. 

Hope is the light that shines so bright at the end of the tunnel that motivates you to go get it. It is what keeps you focused. makes you push harder, gives you ideas, gives you strength to move on, motivates and encourages you to reach your goals.

The moment you stop hoping, your life automatically becomes stagnant. Hope is very important in every human life. Do not stop hoping that your situation will change for the best. This is why.... being hopeful gives you life. A hopeful man is a happy man. He is rest assured that even though he is penniless today, he would be rich tomorrow. That's hope. A person who is at the brink of death, if he is told that there is a cure for his ailment, would instantly be full of life again even before taking the cure.

 Hope is a beautiful virtue. It brings joy, laughter, confidence, progress and transformation to your life. It makes your plan work out.  Hope is actually what makes you a goal getter  because you know there is surely a price at the end of it all. I encourage you to stay hopeful no matter what today might seem because a man without hope is a failure already. Those who have made it wouldn't have gotten there if they had no hope for surely it connected them to their big break.

Therefore this week, be full of hope. If you have already given up, please pick up from where you stopped.  And don't ever be discouraged again.


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

INTEGRITY PAYS!

Hello people, Happy democracy day! I am sure you would agree with me that today is a great day.  Last week we discussed goal setting, and i believe that everyone has set their goals and are already acting on them. This week however, I would like to discuss one of the virtues you need to acquire on your way to success.

INTEGRITY : Integrity means honesty, strong moral principles, uprightness, honour, right-mindedness, decency, fairness, sincerity, truthfulness. The list is endless. Integrity means everything good, just and right. Integrity is that one virtue that makes you a celebrated hero. When you climb the ladder the right way, the honour that comes with it is always immeasurable. If you look around, you can easily point out those who are highly celebrated because of their strong moral values and                principles.
Achievement that comes with becoming a success through the right way is such that you are proud of. I had a conversation with an uncle of mine who owned an accounting firm yesterday evening at his house, and he went on about the challenges his company is faced with due to her moral values and principles. He spoke about his decision on never to receive bribe from anyone in the course of discharging his duties and how it has not been easy to maintain the company due to financial challenges. He lamented so much on the fraud, bribery, lack of integrity that take place in private and government parastatals. But even in the face of challenges he re-affirmed that he would never compromise his integrity for anything. You needed to see the look on my face, I felt so proud of  him.

As leaders, entrepreneurs and dreamers, you must never ever leave out the virtue of integrity. If you lack integrity, you automatically lack the honour and respect that should accompany your success. If everyone decides to be honest and fair in discharging their duties in Nigeria, I strongly believe that Nigeria would be a better place. Yes we have people like my uncle in different spheres of profession who are also honest and dedicated to their works but they are obviously not many.

Are you a public office holder or private practice personnel? do you see being tipped to go against your professional ethics in the discharge of your duty as a normal routine or avenue to make extra income by the side?  Remember, one day you will leave that office to a new life. But who knows how life will decide to deal with you at the time?

If you require a better future for our dear country Nigeria? then it has to begin with you. like i always say, be the change you want to see. Life is not all about what we have but it has everything to do with who we are. So i implore you to do what you will always be proud of, not what you will feel sorry about for the rest of your life. For whatever you do will always come back to you ( either good or bad). And if you do not have kids that will be partakers of your doings, you surely will have families like parents, siblings, uncles, aunties, nephews and nieces as karma is no respecter of anyone.

Therefore, I challenge you the new generation of achievers to dare to be different.  You don't have to do what everyone does. Integrity and honesty pays a whole lot. The gains might not be immediate but it brings about eternal happiness and fulfillment. Though it might seem difficult to keep up at first, but if you don't give up, you definitely won't see it as a big deal anymore.


Thank you for your time always, have a pleasant week.


Damilola Olamide Adebambi

SET GOALS!

Hello there! how is the week going? it is quiet a busy one for me, hence my lateness in posting for the week. However, nothing can stop a man with a dream and purpose. As entrepreneurs, leaders and goal getters, there is a need for GOAL SETTING if you ever want to achieve and move beyond your dreams.

GOAL SETTING : Simply put, is the process that involves identifying what you want to achieve, how you want to achieve and when you intend to achieve. With goal setting, every dream becomes real and achievable because it not only helps you gain clarity, it also gives room for how and when you need to achieve it. Goal setting makes your dream practicable and becomes your guide to success. With goal setting, you don't just dream, you act and become a doer.

The theory of goal settings states that it has to be SMART. That is, specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound.

When you set goals, it makes you to be more committed to realizing your dream and gives you the one step at a time kind of achievement. It also helps you not to lose focus on your purpose so that things that don't have relevance to your goals will not matter to you. 

When you set goals and achieve them, you create opportunities for yourself and the liberty to own your time.

To live a happy and fulfilled life, you have to dream and act. But you can't do this if you don't set goals. So i encourage you today not only to be a dreamer but also to be a doer by having an agenda on how you can realize your dream which is GOAL SETTING. 

You can do this yourself if you are disciplined and determined, you can also get a coach to do this for you. The essence of a coach is that they serve as your accountability officer. Coaches ensure that you achieve your goals at the time you need to achieve them. They are responsible for supporting and encouraging you to succeed. If you need help on setting goals and achieving them, you can contact balmofgileadfoundation24@gmail.com.

Remember, things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out - John Wooden

God bless you! enjoy the rest of your week.

Damilola Olamide Adebambi

GIVE THANKS!

Hello people! You are welcome to a brand new week. It is always a pleasure to help walk through the journey of your life. Your happiness is all I crave for because everyone deserves to be happy and satisfied with their lives. And as long as you are not tired, i will also not be weary. This week, I would like to share with you the greatest virtue you need to possess that can grant you everlasting joy.

THANKSGIVING: 

How often do you give thanks? when last did you genuinely give thanks for your life and what you are going through. Did you know that whatever you are facing right now, no matter how grave or light it seem, is all part of your breakthrough story? did you know that it is very typical of success to send challenges your way first, in order to prepare you for what you are about to experience in it, and for you to appreciate it when it finally finds you?

 Without struggle, there can be no triumph, therefore, right where you feel you are, either at the lowest of the pyramid or at the top of it, cultivate the habit of thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving releases the flood gate of heaven. It brings about unwarranted blessings. God loves to be praised, and that is the only reward He demands from us for all the things He has done, and will still do for humanity. Giving thanks especially in time of need, ignites immediate provision from God. Try it, It works like magic. Giving thanks is the greatest of all virtues, it is spiritual and it defines who you are.

Brian Tracy said and i quote that "develop an attitude of gratitude and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation". 

So what is your situation like? that life you think is not perfect, your not so sweet marriage, your underpaid job, your not so brilliant child, your lack of money, your not so nice stature, your not so beautiful face, the things you cannot afford,  e.t.c. Give thanks for them! for it could have been worse. Besides, what you think is bad in your life, is what some other people wish they had. Therefore, no matter your current situation, be grateful.

However, it is not enough to feel happy or grateful, it is best when you express it. Gratitude felt and not expressed is like an unwrapped present. Being thankful means showing that you are grateful for your life and that you are happy about it so that others can tap into the joy that radiates in you everyday. If you desire a satisfying and fulfilling life, you must have the heart that give thanks always. In return, you get to be joyous even if your life is not so perfect.

Thank you for your time, have a joyful week!

Damilola Adebambi

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!

Hello intentional people! happy new week. As always, I am so excited to reach out to you today. Last week was all about your passion and its importance to the journey of your life. This week, let us discuss your life, and how you see it.

Often times, I have seen people get confused about how to live their lives. Basically how to be in charge of their lives.  They seem not to understand how other people run their lives successfully, because they have also tried to do that but they found it very hard to do. The logic is this, if anyone wants to paddle the boat of their life, they have to do it with their heart (intentionally).

Your heart is like the engine room of your life. You need to understand how it works before you can understand the message it passes across to
   you. 
 However, I have to make it clear that you can achieve none of this if you don't give room for the one who created the heart for you. Invariably, you can only paddle the boat of your life with your heart (intentional living) if you understand that the one who made it, made it with specific guide and manual that you have to read and follow, so that you don't get lost while paddling.

 Now sometimes, the guide comes randomly. It doesn't even look like what you have in mind or what you see yourself doing at all. But since you are paddling with your heart, and you understand how it works and the message or signal it sends to you, you just take it and change course. This is what it means to be in charge of your life.

The act of listening to every instruction sent to you through the manual from God's table and the ability to act on it even before sharing it with others. The act of living a spontaneous life, the ability to understand the signal of the guide leading towards certain path no matter how strange it is to you, and having the boldness to follow through.

The truth is,  you cannot achieve this if you box yourself to a corner, if you are not open to new ideas and change. If you limit yourself to certain things, if you feel some things are just not for you.
People who know me well, can tell that i am unpredictable and spontaneous in a positive way. This is because i flow with my heart a lot. We might have a chat today about everything going on in my life, and the next day, i am onto another big thing that i didn't even know i would be doing at all not to talk of mentioning it to you when we had our discussion. That is what it means to flow with your heart.

If you flow with your heart always, you engage in constant meditation and it reveals more things to you, more ideas, more opportunities, and then, you just flow with it. Now i don't wait for approval from anyone once i get my instructions, I make up my mind instantly and map out ways of achieving them. If you are the type that bothers so much about what people would say, then you might have difficulty in being responsible for your life. It means that you allow what people say to paddle your life's boat for you. And that can't take you far because your heart is in you and not in other people.

How do you expect your heart to send signal to other people? or how does your heart communicate with your friends? they are not the carrier of your own heart, so it is not possible. They can't know you like you do.

Therefore,  I challenge you to make a decision today to be in charge of your life. Be ready for change, be open to new ideas and innovations. Meditate, be a solution provider, help people, love life and live it intentionally. In all of this, you will find the essence and the true meaning of life. God bless you and have a great week!

Damilola Adebambi

CHANGE THE WORLD THROUGH YOUR PASSION!

Happy new month people! Today is quiet special because it is Monday and also worker's day. So you don't get to work today. How nice it is for workers to be recognized for their hard work all over Nigeria. As a nation, it is expected that workers diligently perform their task for the progress of their country and also have the obligation of enjoying their tasks even as they are rewarded with wages and salaries. However, in Nigeria today, many people just work for the salary and not for the joy of working because of the absence of passion. only few can boast of satisfaction and fulfillment when they are asked simply because of lack of passion. This week, I will concentrate on passion and how it works.

  WHY DO YOU NEED PASSION TO WORK EFFECTIVELY AT YOUR WORK PLACE?

Passion is defined as the strong feeling of enthusiasm and excitement for something or about doing something. Passion is what you build your life around. it challenges you, motivates you and puts you to work. It gives you energy for work and fulfillment. It is what makes you to have real impact on your work and at your work place.

On the other hand, lack of passion leads to vulnerability at work place. It sucks out your energy for work and makes you tired. You look forward to weekend always, when extra effort is needed to meet up with target, you just find yourself not being up to it. If your work is to relate with client for instance, you end up smearing your organisation's image by being totally unfriendly with them. You make mistakes often and you are not happy. If all these sound familiar, then you are probably not as passionate as you were when you started work. You need to work on being passionate in order to enjoy satisfaction. If you work in Lagos for instance, you will understand that getting to your work place everyday is enough stress. It will be a greater stress for you to get to work and find it boring and not exciting!

You need passion to be a great and award winning worker. Passion is the reason selected workers are more celebrated than the others in the same organisation. Passion can however be developed overtime. this can be achieved by first appreciating your work and your work environment.
1.  Discover the task you love performing the most at work and practice it constantly. This means that passion can be developed with experience.

2. Be obliged to make a great impact at your work place. That is, identify a problem at your organisation and look for ways to solve it. Such that when you are not are around, you will be greatly missed.

3. Understand the reason for your employment by the organisation in the first place. Be aware of your roles and function and perform them effectively.

4. Dare to make a difference. There is a reason why you work where you work at. Make your time there worthwhile, make your works count so that when you leave, you will not be forgotten.

5. Set target for yourself and act on it.

6. Embark on personal training.

All these and more build up your passion gradually and make
you the best at what you do.  I must add that no one is born with passion for a particular job, it is developed with time and curiosity. The same way no one can help you build your passion, you create it yourself.

To make Nigeria a great country, every worker is obligated to work passionately not only for the gain, but also for the joy of the job that they do. This way the meaning of worker's day will not be lost or misinterpreted.  Enjoy your holiday!


Damilola Adebambi

RELATIONSHIPS MATTER!

Happy new week to my favourite people on earth! hope you had a splendid week? It has been quiet a journey on living a fulfilling and successful life on this platform. From Giving is fun to Live a life of purpose to break free from negative addictions and the rest of the topics we had treated. The essence of this weekly post is to help you achieve the kind of life that you deserve. The kind that has been pre- planned by God way before your existence.

 This week, I have decided to share with you how to create and maintain meaningful relationships in the course of your journey to greatness. This is one of the most important aspect of life. Your relationship with people does not only form your school of thought, but also reflects who you are. Apart from the fact that you need to live your life in daily consciousness of your actions, you also need to have a clear definition of the purpose of your relationship with other people, most especially those around you. Ask yourself these questions daily, it would help. How is my relating with other people affecting their lives? What kind of influence or what impact do I have on people around me? How do I want people to see me? What is my true essence in the lives of others? When I speak to people, are they inspired or downcasted?. Believe it or not, The reason for your existence is not only to fulfil your purpose but to also impact , motivate others to live life successfully.

You achieve this by not taking out your problems or hurts on others, by not criticising others, by being selfless and most of all, by not valuing money more than your relationship with people.

 It is no more surprising that people these days value money more than the people around them. They are usually quick to say that they don't care about people generally. All they care for is cash! Too much love for money can make you loose the people that matter to you if you are not careful. That is why some people lack good people in their lives. The truth is that when people realise that you love money more than them, they run far away from you. When the value that you place on money is much  higher than that of people in your life, then this post is for you.

You definitely can't do without good and loyal people in the journey of your life because that's what God created us for, RELATIONSHIP.  Money can buy everything but not good friends. How do you then improve on your dealings with people?

* Do not overrate the value of money in your life i.e. don't value money more than people in your life.

* Let relationships matter to you. however irrelevant they are for now.

* Don't undermine anyone. Who you feel can't help you in any way today can save your life in future.

* Love genuinely, even when you are not loved.

* Give, give and give.

* Let your life inspire people on a daily basis

* Be a problem solver.

* Let people worship God through your character.

The place of success is usually lonely for those who failed to maintain relationships before they got there because they find it difficult to trust people. Identifying people who love them for their money is also very difficult at this stage. Therefore cherish your relationship with people around you now, before you become and don't forget that how you treat them is how they treat you.  Have a lovely week!

Damilola Adebambi

LAZINESS IS A TURN OFF!

Hello great people! I hope you had a wonderful holiday? Obviously the holiday is over and we are back to the regular life. This week, we would take a quick peek on why many people, after reading books on success, heard about success stories are still not motivated to become successful.  I have realised that many people want to be successful and rich but only few are willing to pay the price. The reason for the celebration of Easter is because Jesus paid a price with his life to save the whole world from sin. He came to the world to fulfil a purpose. When the time to pay the price came, even though He had power to deliver Himself from those who sought after His life, He didn't do it. He had to fulfil destiny, He had to pay the price.

Like I always say, There is no one on the face of the earth who wasn't born with or for a purpose. why only few are celebrated is because majority don't want to dwell on whatever will derive so much effort and sacrifice from them. Based on research, one of the factors that contribute to this is sheer laziness. 

LAZINESS is the act of being unwilling to work or use energy. The act of resisting effort and the state of passivity. Laziness is a habit that has been part of whoever indulges in it over time. It affects their decision making, their will to become successful and their way of life.

Most lazy people find it hard or difficult to discover what they are passionate about because of the effort it requires. They sometimes which they were rich and passionate about something. But they are also usually quick to rule it out of their minds. Almost everyone wants the honour that comes with success, but not everyone can actually fathom the driving force behind every successful person.

However, If you desire a good and fulfilling life, you must rule out laziness from your personal dictionary. Instead of focusing on the stress and obstacles of doing what it takes to be successful, you should rather focus on the outcome, the honour and fulfilment that comes with it. For instance if a student thinks about the rigorous exercise involved in obtaining a degree, they would never go to school. The same way you must view fulfilling purpose and success.

Some of the reasons for Laziness could be lack of motivation, not being able to make a decision, procrastination, lack of energy, fear of the unknown e.t.c.

However, you can overcome all these by doing the following:

* BE IN-CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE: You must first take charge of your life. This means that you don't have to seek approval from anyone in order to make a decision by simply having a mind of your own.

* SELF- MOTIVATION: By also practising self motivation. In other words, be motivated by your own courage. Do not allow your present situation to define who you are. Poverty is not a degree neither is it a certificate. It doesn't define you, it is only temporary if you are willing to break free from it.

* BE SURE OF WHAT YOU WANT:  knowing what you want and where you wish to be helps a great deal. It helps you to work out plans on how to go about your life and succeed.

* AVOID PROCASTINATION: It is a deadly disease. It practically doesn't allow you to get anything done. Why not do what you want to do now? why later?

* EXERCISE YOUR BODY: You also need to engage in exercises if you lack energy to perform tasks. To run your daily activities, you need physical energy and you can only get this through healthy foods and exercises.

* HAVE A TO DO LIST:  You can also have a to do list everyday written out in your writing pad. This enables you to have an idea of what you need to get done before the end of the day. You can achieve this by simply ticking the ones you are able to do for the day. All these activities shape your daily life and habits. It becomes part of you over time.

The truth is, until you are tired of your present state, nothing can be done to help you. You need to first make a firm decision before books or words of motivation can help you. You need actions, no amount of article written can do your works for you. You have to do them yourself.

Make affirmations on who you want to be and not who you are right now. Say words of declarations and act according to these words. Do these and see your life take a sharp turn towards the life and future you desire.

Thank you for always taking time to read through, I wish you a week full of bliss and happiness.

Damilola Adebambi

 

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THE END JUSTIFIES THE MEANS!

Happy new week my intentional people! I welcome you to another amazing week of great influence. This week, I would start by first narrating the story of  an undergraduate young lady who dated a rich and unfaithful young man. She knew he wasn't faithful but didn't mind because she enjoyed the gifts and money she got from the man. Moreover she did an analysis and realised that she might not even have to search for job after graduation. The man was that rich.
She had a perfect picture of her future with the man and in no time got pregnant for him. Once pregnant, they had a hasty wedding ceremony and life was beautiful for the lady. Three months after, her husband cheated, drank excessive alcohol and disregarded her. Anytime she tried to put him in order, he was quick to remind her how she forced marriage on him with her pregnancy. Life became unbearable for her and she was desperate for solution. After all that wasn't what she planned for.

Some dreamers are like the young lady, they want success so badly they can't endure the process it entails. They want to break out over night not minding what they involve in to get there. Please note that whatever you do for success becomes a determining factor for its outcome. Dreamers who don't mind how they become can be likened to the lady whose story was related above. She had so much hope for the future in the most wrong way and ended up regretting her actions because of the path she took to become.  As much as you crave success, take a moment to reflect on the steps you are taking. Make sure you are on the right part if you desire a life of fulfilment.

The means by which you become should be what you are most conscious about on your journey to becoming. Remember, it is only God that makes rich without adding sorrow. Ever wondered why some rich folks park their SUVs in the middle of the road and begin to act abnormally?. This is not a confirmation on what they did or did not. But who knew how they became?. However, being able to answer the following questions honestly will give you a clear picture of where you stand at the moment. By what means do you want to become?  What is the motive behind why you want to become?.  It is important to state that what you don't work hard for cannot bring an everlasting happiness to you. Life is in phases, you either work first and play later or play first and work later.

In conclusion, on your way to success, what manner of things would you put your hands into? would you forfeit your integrity on the way? would your conscience be compromised? would you be willing to do just about anything in the name of fame? remember, For every cause, there is an effect and for every means, there is an end.
It is the wish of BOGGF (BalmOfGilead Global Foundation) that everyone lives a life of positive impact and total satisfaction to enact the future that we all can be proud of in Nigeria, Africa and the whole world. 
Thank you for your support always!...

Damilola Adebambi